Godly Femininity: A Reflection of Divine Purpose

Femininity is defined as an appearance and set of characteristics attributed to girls and women. Whilst the appearance of femininity can be broad, it is largely an embodiment that meets the requirements of a societal standard. Feminine characteristics, however, are commonly more universal. These are often associated with delicateness, fragility, submissiveness, nurture and a tendency to be emotional. These ideas are widely embraced across cultures, religions, and societies. However, for the Christian woman, such traditional views, while not entirely incorrect, are limiting as they fail to capture the intricacy of the female design and vastness of God’s intended purpose for women.

With the growing rise of women taking to the pulpit and occupying leadership roles within and beyond the church, our understanding of godly femininity continues to expand outside certain historical and traditionally held beliefs.

Where we can always find a great deal of direction and clarity is in the unwavering and eternal truths found in scripture. God’s word is where it begins and where it ends, (Isaiah 40:8).

Celebrating Internal Beauty and Modesty in Godly Femininity

While the world often celebrates and pressures women to emphasise external beauty, scripture teaches that true beauty comes from within.

Proverbs 31:30 reminds us that “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” This reverence for God not only shapes character, it guides decisions and actions which help to align how we present outwardly with who we are in Christ internally.

1 Peter 3:3-4 instructs: “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewellery or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” This passage highlights that godly beauty is not about external appearance but again, looking inward it is about a heart transformed by Christ.

Similarly, 1 Timothy 2:9-10 encourages modesty and self-control in appearance: “I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.”

Therefore, keep in mind that modesty is more than clothing or external presentation, rather it is about having a heart that prioritises godliness over external validation (1 Samuel 16:7).

Prioritising internal beauty and modesty is essential in godly femininity, but it should not come at the expense of maintaining a healthy lifestyle and self-care. (Ruth 3:3, Ecclesiastes 9:8 and Proverbs 31:17).

Good hygiene, staying active, and dressing neatly are all ways of honouring God with our bodies, as long as they do not become sources of vanity or self-idolatry. The key is balance, prioritising biblically aligned inner beauty while also being a good steward of the body God has given us (1 Corinthians 6:19-20).

Godly Femininity Beyond Appearance: Wisdom and Virtue

Beyond outward appearance, the Proverbs 31 Woman is defined by her faith, wisdom, and diligent character. She fears the Lord (Proverbs 31:30), making her relationship with God the foundation of her life. She is hardworking and resourceful (Proverbs 31:13-19), managing her home and finances with discernment and prudence.

Her words are filled with kindness (Proverbs 31:26), and she extends generosity to those in need (Proverbs 31:20). Strength and dignity clothe her as she faces the future with confidence (Proverbs 31:25). Her family honours her for the love, support, and stability she provides (Proverbs 31:11-12, 28).

Above all, her actions leave a lasting impact, earning her respect and praise (Proverbs 31:31). Her beauty is not just in how she presents herself but in how she lives: a true reflection of godly femininity.

Resist the temptation to see this woman as an unattainable ideal. She reflects aspects of all women and serves as an inspiration for the journey we are all on.

This popular proverb is not a call to perfection, need we be reminded we have all fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23). It is a call to seek God above all things and to be proactive in our capacities whatever they may be. Improving financial literacy, volunteering in the community or church, being attentive to the needs in the home, leading children and those around by example, finding ways to incorporate exercise into daily activities and being a crown to your husband (Proverbs 12:4) by being the best version of yourself.

It is a call to embrace who we are as women in the fullness of God's design, leaving no stone unturned.

Relational By Design: Called to Connect and Lead.

God’s intentional design in creating woman from man’s rib (Genesis 2:22) beautifully illustrates her role as a relational being, uniquely crafted for connection and companionship. Unlike being formed from the dust, as Adam was, woman was taken from his side symbolising not only their deep bond but also her place alongside him, as a partner and helper (Genesis 2:18). The rib, which protects the heart and provides structural support, reflects a woman’s innate ability to nurture, uplift, and bring strength to those around her.

 This design extends beyond marriage; women are naturally gifted in building relationships, fostering community, and offering emotional and spiritual support. Their ability to connect with others, whether in family, friendships, or ministry, mirrors God’s relational nature and serves as a powerful reminder that we are created to be vessels of love, wisdom, and encouragement.

A Call to Action!

Godly femininity is thus a profound and beautiful calling that reflects a woman who walks in obedience to God. This Christian woman’s identity is rooted in who she is in Christ, shaping her approach to life, relationships, and purpose. She knows that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), called to exude God’s love, wisdom, and grace in all she does and ultimately her worth is not dictated by external appearances but by the character she cultivates within (1 Samuel 16:7).

SO ASK YOURSELF…

How do I embrace godly femininity in my daily life and what areas of my character can I strengthen to reflect Christ more?